Inspire YOU

Can I be honest? In a world of female entrepreneurs, it’s not always easy. On a good day, I am confident in who God made me to be and the message I have to to spread that’s all my own. I have a unique voice, my own thoughts and my own personal spin on things that is going to make a difference in someone else’s life.

But then something happens and I lose my vibe. I browse around a fellow girlfriend's page and think, WOWWW. She’s really, really good. What in the world?! How does she have so many followers? How does she DO that?

And that may be a hundred different things. I get sucked into this vortex of HER and instead of coming away inspired, I leave in a funk, sulking, unsure, and unhappy for another person’s success. And ya’ll. That is all on ME!

She didn’t do anything wrong.

In fact, my ill-flavored response flies in the face of what I’ve been reading in my personal development the past few weeks. And I want to share it with you. Because I think jealousy <and let’s just call it what it is here> is something we all struggle with. But here’s the thing.

There is enough to go around. Enough success. Enough income. Enough followers, fans, and friends to be had. Enough paths, enough ideas, and enough of the comparison.

It has to stop!

Her success is not my lack. I have to remind myself of that. It is OK. But when I sit there in that place and stew, when I allow myself to go there and start feeling sorry for myself, or that somehow her accomplishments define and set limits on my own, I’m in a dangerous place.

Let me encourage US with this thought today. You have a God-appointed path to walk. You have the makeup, personal experiences, and quirky quirks that make you, you. And no one can take that away from you. We absolutely can and should draw inspiration from others and learn from their mistakes {and successes!} but true freedom and focus come from staying in our own lane, doing our own best, and being assured that what we plant today in effort, we reap tomorrow in results.

A friend shared that last part, in effect last night and the timing was perfect. My job is to do my best. My job isn’t to look around and feel all jumbled inside because someone else is doing their thing and rocking it. What a distraction from my purpose and poor use of my time. It does nothing but zap me of my zeal. It made me think of what our teachers used to tell us.

“Keep your eyes on your own paper.”

It’s true. It is OK to draw inspiration from someone else. That is how we learn, grow, and improve. We’re not made to do life alone and rely only on ourselves. But it’s that moment when inspiration turns. And I knew it! I could feel that ugliness creeping in and those feelings of disdain and “Ugh, whatever,” as I doubted if what I had was good enough.

Let’s not do that friends. Can we hold each other accountable? Can we find ourselves amazingly talented, uniquely gifted and our talents perfectly portioned for the task at hand?

The next time you find yourself looking out instead of in, remember that YOU have something to offer and only YOU can bring it! So rock it girl. And stay in your lane.

 

The rest will follow.